Alissa Hansen
Somatic Sex Coach & Sexologist | Vancouver
Perform embody your Sexuality
The body keeps score in ways we don't always notice. You can't remember the last time you actually wanted sex, and when it happens, you feel almost nothing. You're not sure what turns you on anymore, or if you ever really knew.
It's hard to explain to anyone, maybe even to yourself. You go through the motions and wonder if this is just what sex is now.
It isn’t.
Alissa Hansen is a somatic sex coach and sexologist based in Vancouver, BC, helping women reconnect with their bodies, desire, and pleasure.
Perform
Embody your Sexuality
The body keeps score in ways we don't always notice. You can't remember the last time you actually wanted sex, and when it happens, you feel almost nothing. You're not sure what turns you on anymore, or if you ever really knew.
It's hard to explain to anyone, maybe even to yourself. You go through the motions and wonder if this is just what sex is now.
It isn’t.
About Me
This work chose me before I chose it.
Early developmental trauma, chronic pelvic pain, sexual shutdown, I know that territory intimately. What I learned is that my body was never the problem. It was doing exactly what it needed to keep me safe. Nothing was ever wrong with me.
The same is true for you.
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Certified Integrative Sex Coach & Educator, The Sexual Integration Institute, 2026 (in training)
Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2024
Introductory Certificate in Embodied Counselling, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2024
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My work blends somatic practice with an integrative, body-based approach to sexuality. It's trauma-informed and paced to your nervous system, helping you reconnect with your body, gently unravel the conditioning that limits your sexual expression, and expand your capacity for pleasure and connection.
In session, we move between conversation and embodied practice. We talk through what's coming up for you, then turn toward the body, where you'll learn embodiment skills to drop out of your head, deepen sensitivity, and open to more pleasure and aliveness. Between sessions, I offer home-play: practices chosen for you to carry the work into your own space.
Through this process, you will begin to:
Understand your nervous system and how it shapes your experience of connection and desire.
Bring compassion and curiosity to whatever arises in moments of intimacy or vulnerability, knowing all of you is welcome here.
Reconnect with your body's language and sensations through gentle somatic practice.
Gently unravel the conditioning and narratives that have shaped how you relate to your body, sex, and pleasure.
Explore your unique erotic template, including what turns you on, what turns you off, and what truly supports your pleasure.
Reconnect with your own inner wisdom, so you can trust your body to lead the way.
Build new pathways to pleasure that feel grounded, real, and sustainable.
This work invites you to gently reframe what you were taught about your body, sex, and pleasure, and to reclaim your eroticism and pleasure as an essential part of your life.
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Expanding your relationship to pleasure, in the bedroom and in everyday life
Developing nourishing self-pleasure and self-touch practices
Unwinding sexual shame and the conditioning that shapes how you relate to sex and pleasure
Building nervous system capacity for sensation, arousal, and aliveness
Deepening embodiment and presence, in and out of the bedroom
Cultivating embodied consent and boundaries, so you can feel your yes and your no in your body
Reconnecting with your body through pelvic embodiment, pleasure anatomy, and vulva connection
Reconnecting with desire and understanding your own arousal patterns.
Working with orgasm, receiving, and expanding your orgasmic capacity
Growing body confidence and befriending your body as it is
Nurturing self-worth and your sense of deserving pleasure, rest, and joy
Healing the pressure to "perform" or be a certain way sexually
Bringing more confidence and connection into partnered intimacy
Learning to express your desires, needs, and boundaries with a partner
Reconnecting with your body and sexuality through life transitions, including postpartum, perimenopause, and times of change
Reclaiming your erotic nature and exploring who you are as a sexual being
Understanding your sexual imprints and the stories that shape how you relate to sex and pleasure
About Me
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Certified Integrative Sex Coach & Educator, The Sexual Integration Institute, 2026 (in training)
Certified Somatic Sex Coach, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2024
Introductory Certificate in Embodied Counselling, Institute of Somatic Sexology, 2024
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My work blends somatic practice with an integrative, body-based approach to sexuality. It's trauma-informed and paced to your nervous system, helping you reconnect with your body, gently unravel the conditioning that limits your sexual expression, and expand your capacity for pleasure and connection.
In session, we move between conversation and embodied practice. We talk through what's coming up for you, then turn toward the body, where you'll learn embodiment skills to drop out of your head, deepen sensitivity, and open to more pleasure and aliveness. Between sessions, I offer home-play: practices chosen for you to carry the work into your own space.
Through this process, you will begin to:
Understand your nervous system and how it shapes your experience of connection and desire.
Bring compassion and curiosity to whatever arises in moments of intimacy or vulnerability, knowing all of you is welcome here.
Reconnect with your body's language and sensations through gentle somatic practice.
Gently unravel the conditioning and narratives that have shaped how you relate to your body, sex, and pleasure.
Explore your unique erotic template, including what turns you on, what turns you off, and what truly supports your pleasure.
Reconnect with your own inner wisdom, so you can trust your body to lead the way.
Build new pathways to pleasure that feel grounded, real, and sustainable.
This work invites you to gently reframe what you were taught about your body, sex, and pleasure, and to reclaim your eroticism and pleasure as an essential part of your life.
-
Expanding your relationship to pleasure, in the bedroom and in everyday life
Developing nourishing self-pleasure and self-touch practices
Unwinding sexual shame and the conditioning that shapes how you relate to sex and pleasure
Building nervous system capacity for sensation, arousal, and aliveness
Deepening embodiment and presence, in and out of the bedroom
Cultivating embodied consent and boundaries, so you can feel your yes and your no in your body
Reconnecting with your body through pelvic embodiment, pleasure anatomy, and vulva connection
Reconnecting with desire and understanding your own arousal patterns.
Working with orgasm, receiving, and expanding your orgasmic capacity
Growing body confidence and befriending your body as it is
Nurturing self-worth and your sense of deserving pleasure, rest, and joy
Healing the pressure to "perform" or be a certain way sexually
Bringing more confidence and connection into partnered intimacy
Learning to express your desires, needs, and boundaries with a partner
Reconnecting with your body and sexuality through life transitions, including postpartum, perimenopause, and times of change
Reclaiming your erotic nature and exploring who you are as a sexual being
Understanding your sexual imprints and the stories that shape how you relate to sex and pleasure
This work chose me before I chose it.
Early developmental trauma, chronic pelvic pain, sexual shutdown, I know that territory intimately. What I learned is that my body was never the problem. It was doing exactly what it needed to keep me safe.
Nothing was ever wrong with me.
The same is true for you.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Somatic sex coaching is a body based approach to healing, pleasure, and sexuality. Rather than only talking about your experiences, we work with sensation, breath, awareness, and nervous system regulation to help you reconnect with your body and build new pathways to pleasure and intimacy.
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This work is for women and couples who feel disconnected from their pleasure, stuck in performative sex patterns, navigating low desire, healing from past experiences, or wanting to feel more present and alive in their body and relationships.
You do not need to be in crisis. Many clients come because they simply know there is more available to them than what they are currently experiencing.
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Sessions are gentle, guided, and fully clothed. We move between conversation, education, and simple embodiment practices that help you build awareness of your body, your nervous system, and your relationship to pleasure.
Sessions are collaborative, you always have a choice. Nothing is ever required.
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This work can feel therapeutic, though it is coaching rather than therapy. We focus on present moment awareness, skill building, and practical tools that help you create new experiences in your body and relationships.
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If you feel curious, drawn in, or relieved reading this, that is often a good sign. You do not need to have the right words yet. Reaching out is simply the first step in exploring what might be possible for you.
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Trauma informed means we move with care, consent, and awareness of how past experiences can live in the body and nervous system. Sessions are paced gently, you are always in choice, and we pay attention to what helps you feel steady and present rather than overwhelmed.
While this work is supportive for people with trauma histories, it is coaching rather than trauma therapy. The focus is on creating safety, building capacity, and helping your body have new experiences that feel supportive and empowering in the present.
Frequently Asked Questions
Somatic sex coaching is a body-based approach to healing, pleasure, and sexuality. Rather than only talking about your experiences, we work with sensation, breath, awareness, and nervous system regulation to help you reconnect with your body and build new pathways to pleasure and intimacy.
Sessions are gentle, guided, and fully clothed. We move between conversation, education, and simple embodiment practices that help you build awareness of your body, your nervous system, and your relationship to pleasure.
Sessions are collaborative — you always have a choice. Nothing is ever required.
This work can feel therapeutic, though it is coaching rather than therapy. We focus on present moment awareness, skill building, and practical tools that help you create new experiences in your body and relationships.
No — sessions are fully clothed and virtual. There is no sexual touch administered or nudity involved when we're together. I follow strict professional guidelines, including ongoing conversations and check-ins around consent and what you're comfortable with.
This work is for women and couples who feel disconnected from their pleasure, stuck in performative sex patterns, navigating low desire, healing from past experiences, or wanting to feel more present and alive in their body and relationships.
You do not need to be in crisis. Many clients come simply because they know there is more available to them than what they are currently experiencing.
If you feel curious, drawn in, or relieved reading this, that is often a good sign. You do not need to have the right words yet. Reaching out is simply the first step in exploring what might be possible for you.
"I've learned so much about my body, how to communicate with it, and how to connect more deeply with my partner. I feel more in tune, more confident, and genuinely excited about sex again, with so much less shame around my body."
"Alissa has a gift of creating a beautiful and supportive space from the very first session. Throughout our sessions together, I felt a deep sense of safety and acceptance, which allowed me to open up and explore aspects of my sexuality that I had not explored before."
Testimonials
Testimonials
"I've learned so much about my body, how to communicate with it, and how to connect more deeply with my partner. I feel more in tune, more confident, and genuinely excited about sex again, with so much less shame around my body."
"Alissa has a gift of creating a beautiful and supportive space from the very first session. Throughout our sessions together, I felt a deep sense of safety and acceptance, which allowed me to open up and explore aspects of my sexuality that I had not explored before."